Well, Hello there.......Sergeant!

I know I haven't posted in almost two months but that's changing. Between work and other commitments, I have just been super busy. I'll get to what I've been up to in another post coming up but I wanted to just post something about Detective BD...... ahem, excuse me - Sergeant BD for a minute. Yes, you read that right, Detective BD is now Sergeant BD and I couldn't be any happier than I am for him right now.

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Be A Priority and Not An Option - Part 2: Balancing Act: I Loved My Man More Than Myself

I found this article on Essence.com and it home for me. Not only did it hit home; it knock on the door, let itself in, made a drink and was relaxing in my bed - straight chillaxin'. I felt as if the author had been ripping out the pages of my life story. I have been here in this situation and I was she. I have recently found myself falling into that old comfortable sweet spot with BD, that I had with my ex and I just have to be cognizant of the repercussions of my actions. Read the article and then see my response immediately following. 

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Six Love Talks That Bring You Closer

Six Love Talks That Bring You Closer

Maya and Jack had ten years together, but they didn't have these soul-baring conversations until the last days of his life. Take a moment to read their story, and then be inspired by them to have these honest talks with the person you love, now.

By Maya Fulcher, as told to Amy Spencer

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What Real Women Expect from Men

Esquire asked 36 American women at five definitive ages what they wanted out of a guy their age. Here's what they believed, in their own words.

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Tactical Gear

This post is very random but whatevs, it's my blog!!!!!

Since BD has become a detective he no longer wears a uniform, only when he works his part-time job at a local night club and even then when he does I don't get to see him because he works very, very late. He goes to work now in suits and ties - which he looks amazingly hot in, btw. A couple of weeks ago, I met BD and his brother for dinner and BD was wearing his tactical gear because he had just come from work and he looked soooooo freakin' amazing. Even though his guns still scare me, he had on his pretty cool thigh holster ( a la Jack Bauer) and I wanted to jump him right then and there. If I could have BD dress in tactical gear every day maybe minus the big gun, I would. I think BD looks great in whatever he wears but it's something about seeing him in his tactical gear that I love. The things I like, go figure.

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Get It On The Dance Floor

Wow!!!! Wow, is all I can say in regards to this video. They are really getting it on the dance floor. If only I could convince my family to do this. The sad part is, knowing that half of them would thoroughly enjoy doing this and make a huge production out of it. This was great from beginning to end and I couldn't stop watching it over and over!!!! I feel like I need to recruit my family and friends, and choreograph a routine for my 30th birthday party, just for kicks. I hope you all enjoy this as much as I did, it made my day.

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Missing Opportunities and The List - Response to 5 Traits In A Mate That Are Not Deal Breakers and Stop Being So Picky

By now, I hope you all have had a chance to read 5 Traits In A Mate That Are Not Deal Breakers and Stop Being So Picky. I found both of these articles to be interesting especially since my friends and I were having a recent discussion on the type of men we wanted to marry and whether or not we had a mental checklist to compare the men we meet, date and love to. We all know I had my little list about what I wanted in a man, but since having met BD that has all changed. When it comes to dating/ relationships we all have a vision of what we desire (some don't and those are the ones I feel sorry for) in a mate, good, bad, and indifferent; however some of the qualities we desire are somewhat on the superficial side. We focus on the nonessential instead of the important essential needs that help us be our better selves. 

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Stop Being So Picky! 

To read in it's entirety click here. Stay tuned for my thoughts and opinions.

A Q& A with author Lori Gottlieb, whose new book "Marry Him: The Case for Mr. Good Enough" is coming out. Here, Gottlieb asserts that feminism has no place in love, dating after 40 is hellish and details why marriage should always be the endgame. By Lauren Iannotti

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Five Traits in a Mate That Are Not Deal Breakers

Found this article and the follow-up Stop Being So Picky on MSN. I wanted to post them and then offer my thoughts. Read, enjoy, and talk amongst yourselves. I'll be posting my views on these pieces shortly.

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Put Your Game Face On - Preparing For Shift

I wrote this post a while ago and never shared it, so here it goes:

I read a post on Behind The Blue Line via A Police Wife and I had 'aha' moment. This soooooo explained a lot to me why BD does what he does. Of the times I've been around BD and he has to prepare for work I notice a change in him, it's like his mind goes somewhere else. I'll be talking about one thing and then he'll just jump in the conversation with something totally off topic. BD, in general, is random in conversation (usually that would annoy me, but for some reason his randomness doesn't bother me) but when it's time to get ready for work it is escalated x10. I don't even think he knows he does that.

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