Fairy Tale Romantic Relationships, Fact or Fiction?

>> Wednesday, January 7

As females, at a young age, we are shown images of fairy tales full of princes and knights showing off their bravery just to impress or save the beautiful princess with chivalry as their armor and love their strength. From Cinderella and Snow White to even Princess Jasmine in Alladin (woman should really sue Disney for having them believe that fairy tale romances are true), we are shown all the highs of a beautiful romance but never the in between day to day of that relationship. Would Snow White still think highly of Prince Charming if he didn't tell her he loved her every day? Would Cinderella still love the prince if he didn't acknowledge her or every once in a while and do romantic things for her? Now I'm not saying there are not relationships like this in world but there are more unfulfilled relationships than there are extremely happy ones. My question is what are your hopes, dreams, desires and expectations in your relationship? If you are not getting what you dream of, why do you stay?

I guess this post is a little sensitive/personal to me right now because I do just not understand, how my relationship got to this point. I'm consistently giving him a bathtub size amount of love and care and he gives me just light splashes, whenever he feels like it or enough to keep me around. I just don't understand what I did to make him hate me so much. You are probably asking, "why do you stay?" Well, I am trying to figure that out too. He has given me every reason to go and none to stay. Have I become so complacent and wounded from the fighting in my relationship that I'm too weary to try and leave? I hope not. I know that it must change and change soon because this definitely not healthy from my mind, body or spirit.

I feel like the life is being sucked right out of me. I feel like I'm a 50-year-old woman, who has been married for 25 years and I'm only 28. I'm scared that I will waste all my good years and throw away the really good love I have for the right man, because the wrong one is unappreciative and needy. I used to believe in fairy tales but not anymore. No one told me that Prince Charming can and will be an asshole sometimes. No one told me that Prince Charming would forget my birthday. No one told me that Prince Charming would tell me that my hobbies and personal interests are not important. No one told me that Prince Charming would throw temper tantrums when he didn't get his way, (even if it's in the middle of your friend's wedding and you have to leave early because he hates being there).

Is it possible to run out of tears? How many more rivers can I create from the tears I've cried? I don't know, but I can't wait around and find out. My focus on my life plan has been shifted because I've spent the greater part of our time together shaping and creating his life goals and plans. Do I have enough left in me to see my own plans through? I wish I never made the decision I made but, I'm a big girl and I will play with cards I dealt myself until the game is over. I will not let one man have that much power over me. I am so much more than what he sees of me and I have something inside of me that I need to share with the world. I can only be me and he doesn't like me, the way that I am then it's time to cut all my losses and abandon ship. I'm ready for whatever is about to happen to us because this cannot continue on like this. So, this is my white flag, I surrender............ 


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