I Don't Have No Babies......

>> Saturday, August 16

"I don't know what he's packing balls or a vajayjay but, he needs to work that out cuz' I ain't got no babies, ain't nobody sucking on my titties, so please man the f@$k up."
- Terri from Project Runway

When I heard Ms. Terri on Project Runway utter these words I literally fell out of my chair in waves of laughter and tears. That was hilarious and awesome on so many levels. Girl, you better stop before my stomach hurts from laughing at your foolishness!

Later on as I was allowing the words to soak in I realized that I need to be the spokeswoman for the " I don't have no babies sucking on my titties, so he better man the **F@$k** up! Campaign" Just like Nancy Reagan had her "Just Say No" campaign, I have my own just say no campaign....Just Say No to men who can't man the **f@$k** up!!!! The campaign applies to both heterosexual and homosexual men. I don't care what you color you paint your pictures with but a man is still a man. I know a couple of dudes that can be my poster children (and I do mean children); they proudly wear the title of man-child well, so they should feel right at home.


Lions Tigers & Bears - OH MY!!!!!!!

>> Sunday, August 3

I am so loving the Lions Tigers Bears song from Jazmine Sullivan.

So far, Jazmine has not disappointed me yet. I am truly excited about this song. The lyrics alone are beautiful and flawless (Please see below). If my life were a soundtrack this would so play in the romantic scene of my life. I am so excited about her album coming out and I can't wait.

This song reminds of a particular someone. He knows how I feel about him and our friendship and how I'm scared for the both of us to move forward and ruin a great friendship. He to me is a tall, cold pitcher filled to the brim of lemonade on a very hot day - just absolutely refreshing. Forget the glasses I want to drink it straight from the pitcher..... Yeah, it's like that and he knows it but we are both to afraid to take that initial step.

Thank you Jazmine Sullivan for taking the innermost feelings of my heart and putting them into song, if my heart could sing this would be the song and how it would sound.

Here are the lyrics:

I'm not scared of lions and tigers and bears (no I'm not)
But I'm scared of (loving you)
I'm not scared to perform at a sold out affair (that's right)
But I'm scared of (loving you)
Am I the only one who thinks it's an impossible task
Why it don't last?
Is that too much to ask?
Why do we love Love,When Love seems to hate us?
Sorry if I sound so filled with gloom.
You say you care, and I know you do...
But this is from my experience
And my conclusion only makes sense.
Just cause I love you, and you love me
It doesn't mean that we're meant to be.
I can climb mountains, swim cross the seas
But the most frightening you and me.
Most circumstances, I know my fate
But in this love thang, I don't get the game.
Why does it feel like those who give in,
They only wind up losing a friend.
Just cause I love you and you love me,
It doesn't mean that we'll ever be.
Fly cross the ocean, sing for the queen
But the most frightening thing is you and me.
I'm sure though I'm not sure
But if we never try, We'll never know
It's better to have loved then not to loved at all.
Not trying is worse than to stumble and fall
And if we do, I'd rather it be with you
Cause at least there will be sweet memories.
Oh I'm not scared...


Song of The Week - Jazmine Sillivan - Need You Bad

>> Friday, July 25

Need u bad by Jazmine Sullivan

She is so my new favorite singer. I really am feeling her style.
Dedicated to...... He knows who is - I don't need to say anymore


Song of the Week - Hezekiah Walker - Grateful

>> Friday, July 18

It is so easy to live your life with everyday things (family issues, bills, work) knocking on your door that you forget the daily blessings you have and are not grateful anymore for anything. And I am not talking about the the financial blessings or materialistic blessings you might receive or want to recive but real blessings to be grateful for. I'm talking about being grateful for the simple ability for your mind to function. Grateful that your brain communicates with your feet and tells them to move in this direction and that direction. Grateful that God just favored you and allowed you to wake up this morning. Those are some real blesseings to be grateful for.


Song of the Week - Marvin Sapp - Never Would Have Made It

>> Friday, July 11

My song of the week is:

Never Would have Made It by Marvin Sapp

This is my testimony everyday. I trust the Lord with all my heart and he directs my paths. I know that so many times I could have lost it all but God is always with me. It's tough a lot of times but all I can say is - GRACE and MERCY. I'm constantly thankful for God's grace and his mercy.


Prayer for Jarrod

>> Sunday, July 6

This week, one of my closest friends will be departing for Afghanistan and I wanted to offer up a prayer for his protection and the protection of all the armed forces worldwide:

Father, I'm praying for (Jarrod) and those who are serving with him, and for the families of all the armed forces worldwide...

The Bible tells us, You're our rock, our fortress, and our shield— and these people on my heart need You to be all these things and more! They don't have to be in the heat of battle to be in danger; the world is a dangerous place wherever they are. (Psalm 18:2)Grant them new life, that they may run under Your wings when they face danger of any kind; cover them with Your feathers. Help them stay in constant touch with You, living in Your presence. Then send Your angels to surround them and guard them wherever they go! ( John 3:3, 5; Psalm 57:1; 91:1–2, 4, 9, 11; 2 Kings 6:17)

Help them turn to You as their refuge and strength, always ready to help in times of trouble. Go before them and protect them from behind. Be their shade from the heat, their shelter from the storm, their hiding place—protect them from trouble. Watch over them, for You never sleep. Their lives are in Your hands; may they trust in You and not be afraid. (Psalm 46:1; Isaiah 52:12; 25:4b; Psalm 32:7a; 121:4–5; 31:15; 56:11)In Jesus' name, amen.

Jim & Kaye Johns Source: "Prayers for the Moment: One-Minute Scripture Prayers" Copyright September 2006. Reprinted with permission of B&H Publishing Group


Song of the Week -Shekinah Glory - Yes

>> Friday, July 4

Here is my Song or Songs of the week:

Yes by Shekinah Glory - Part 1 & 2

Will your heart and soul say yes? Will your spirit still say yes?

All God wants is Yes... How simple is it just to say yes to everyone in your life but not yes to God. Count how many times you say yes in a day. You say yes to your boss, yes to your spouse, yes to your children, and yes to your friends. But what is it that they are giving you for your compliance? Are they giving everlasting life, peace, joy, etc.... Can you truly say that your soul says Yes to God. If someone told you that they would give you everything your heart desired if you just trusted them and just simply said the word yes, would you say it? That's what God wants from you- just a simple yes. If you simply say YES, God will do it.

If this song does not touch or pull on your heart or your spirit than you let me know and I'll find you a good doctor because you have no heart or soul. This song truly ministers to me everytime I hear it. God is truly an AWESOME God!!!!


What I Want In A Man

>> Wednesday, July 2

Where and Who Is He????
I know this post is going to stir a lot of feathers but I am a woman who knows what she likes and knows what she wants. I'm reaching that point in life where all my friends are either in good relationships, engaged, or already married; so it's only natural that I want those same things as well. So I created a list of qualities that I would like in a man. The following is a list of qualities that I would like (this is probably why I'm having trouble in my relationship because he doesn't fit in my wants and desires but a girl can pray - and pray HARD I shall).

DISCLAIMER: Let me just say this before I proceed any further, I would not ask any man to do anything and be anything that I myself would not do or act in any manner and in any manner in which I would not conduct myself. When I come to the table I'm bringing more than silverware and an appetite so I expect a man to do the same.


Letter To A Young Black Female

>> Thursday, May 1

Letter to a Young Black Female

What's up young lady. You may not know who I am but I know who you are. You see, I see your potential, I envision you accomplishing all of your dreams and goals. Anything that you set your mind to can and will be yours if you just Believe!

Believe in what you may ask? Yourself! Believe that you are the intellect which has governed civilizations for century upon century. Believe that you are the standard of beauty and not whatever images the media shells out at you. Believe that there is no task too big or too small that you can not reach for and achieve.

Realize young lady that women have always been at the helm of everything great. James Brown said it best, "this is a man's world but it wouldn't be nothing without a woman or a girl". You have so many big sisters to look up to, so many sources of inspiration that have provided the framework of the strong work ethic known as womanhood.

Notice I call you young lady for these terms that I hear you referred to are not your names. You are a Queen who must demand respect, your mere presence should command respect. You must first respect yourself however, and respect your fellow sisters as well. Together you young ladies make up the future table of leadership.

God made you to be special, he made you to stand apart from the crowd. So fear not if you feel isolated or alone, look back to your big sisters who have changed the landscape of history, they once felt alone too. I write you this letter to show my admiration for you, to pay hommage to the beautiful gift that the creator is bestowing upon us. Follow your dreams and believe in your path young lady, for the very thought of you reaching a tenth of your potential is an inspiration to us all!

Truly yours,

Cedric D. Shine (your #1 fan)


The Spirit of Hip Hop - Coco Brother

>> Tuesday, April 22

I am so feeling the radio show The Spirit of Hip Hop and the host Coco Brother. I have been listening for quite some time and I am truly a fan and I am always blessed when I listen in. If you have never heard of the show you have no idea what you are missing. I love the worship segment of the show. It really is true worship not the fake, play, pretentious worship that you sometimes get in church. It is WORSHIP on a whole other level. He put me on to Jason Upton's worship music - trust me you have no idea about worship until you hear Jason Upton. I would so love to sit down with him and really talk about his work on the radio and in the community. if you are in the Atlanta area you can hear him on Hot 107.9 on Sundays from 6:00AM - 11:00AM. If you are outside, the ATL, please stop by his website where you can hear his radio show and see what station he comes on in your city.



Every Woman Should.......

>> Sunday, April 20

Every Woman Should...
 It was originally written by Pamela Redmond Satran and was published in Glamour magazine in May, 1997

Every Woman Should Have
~one old love she can imagine going back to and one who reminds her how far she has come
~enough money within her control to move out and rent a place of her own even if she never wants to or needs to
~something perfect to wear if the employer or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour
~a youth she's content to leave behind
~a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to retelling it in her old age
~a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra
~one friend who always makes her laugh...and one who lets her cry
~a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family
~eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a recipe for a meal that will make her guests feel honored
~a feeling of control over her destiny...

Every Woman Should Know
~how to fall in love without losing herself
~how to quit a job, break up with a lover, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship
~when to walk away
~that she can't change the length of her calves, the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents
~that her childhood may not have been perfect...but its over
~what she would and wouldn't do for love or more
~how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it
~whom she can trust, whom she can't, and why she shouldn't take it personally
~where to go... be it to her best friend's kitchen table... or a charming inn in the woods... when her soul needs soothing
~what she can and can't accomplish in a day... a month...and a year...

Rules Every Woman Should Follow...
~Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
~Marry a man you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
~Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
~When you say, "I love you", mean it.
~When you say, "I'm sorry", look the person in the eye.
~Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
~Believe in love at first sight.
~Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.
~Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
~In disagreements, fight fairly. Please No name calling.
~Don't judge people by their relatives.
~Talk slowly but think quickly.
~When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
~Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
~Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
~When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
~Remember the three R's:Respect for self;Respect for others;Responsibility for all your actions.
~Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
~When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
~Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
~Spend some time alone.
~Learn the difference between when he says; I LOVE YOU to get into your bed, or I LOVE YOU to get into your life!


Song Of The Week - Michael Buble - Feeling Good

>> Thursday, April 17

This is song explains my mood at the moment. No words necessary. I love Michael Buble.


Every Minute

Through every minute of this day, be with me, Lord!

Through every day of all this week, be with me, Lord!

Through every week of all this year, be with me, Lord!

So shall the days and weeks and years be threaded on a golden cord.

And all draw on with sweet accord into thy fullness, Lord, that so,

When time is past, By grace I may, at last, Be with thee, Lord.

John Oxenham Source: From "The Power of Prayerful Living" (Rodale)


Just A Thought

>> Wednesday, April 16

“Being powerful is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are, you aren't.”
~Margaret Thatcher


The Watchers vs. The Wanderers vs. The Doers

>> Monday, April 14

"A wise man will make more opportunities than he finds."

~ Francis Bacon

Which are you?

There are definitely three types of people in the world - the watchers, the wanderers and the doers. It amazes me that with all that life has to offer now and with all the access to information that there are people who still are still watching the parade pass them by instead of being the Grand Marshall of the event. I, for one am not one of those people who wants to sit on the sidewalk and watch the action I want to be the star. 

I love learning new things and experiencing new cultures, people, and skills. I will try just about anything once as long as it is not illegal or immoral. I watch people everyday and their behavior. I'm an observer by nature and pay close attention to what people do rather than what they say. Most people think that I'm shy or quiet but it's not that. I just sit back and observe the panorama. Since being in Atlanta, I've noticed that most people here are just watching other people and wander around aimlessly because they don't know who they are. It's almost like watching that scene in The Wiz when Dorothy gets to the Emerald City and everyone is out there singing and dancing and following each other while "The Wiz" (played by Richard Pryor - one of the greatest comedians ever) is making all of these color changes. Peep the video here. How quickly they all love the new color and hate the previous one they so raved about. That scene is a tell tale story of life and how we have people in the upper echelons of life making decisions for us in order to tell us who we are and what we like. It just makes no sense the foolishness people follow and how they try to justify it. You have to love zombies because that's what people are nowadays; living zombies.

I like to be the star. No, that doesn't mean I want to be a celebrity it just means that whenever I do something and I sign my name to it, you better believe it is done in excellence. I'm all about taking risks and putting myself out there. I'm not concerned with how people perceive me because at the end of the day I need to look at myself in the mirror and be comfortable knowing that I did my very best, what was necessary and right for me. I don't care if it seems crazy to you or doesn't seem to make sense but I trust me and when I know, I know. By the time, I've made a move I've played out scenario after scenario in my head. I have plan (or maybe a couple - you can never be too sure) and back up plans for every plan in case anything goes wrong. Even when I've exhausted all of my possibilities, I'm really quick on my feet, so I can come up with a solution on the spot. Chalk it up to me being a former flight attendant or working in hotels where you are not allowed to be seen under pressure only perform. 

Like I said, there are 3 types of people in the world: Doers, Wanderers and Watchers. Which do you fall under? 

Wanderers -Have no fixed idea on where they are going, Have no purpose, Can't see past today or tomorrow, Aimlessly going through the motions

Watchers -Watching and following the doers, Never come up with their own self identity, Allow others and material objects to define them

Doers- Expect the best, See where they are going and not where they are now, Impart energy and vitality into the spirits of other people, Risk Takers, High on life, Expect nothing from no one but themselves

I'm definitely a doer but it surprises how many people say they are a doer but are really only watchers. Are you a doer based on your life needs or off the plan of someone else's? That's a question I ask people a lot. If your parents were like my parents growing up, then they would give you people to admire, to follow in their footsteps. The problem with that is, you are not creating your own vision, leaving your personal footprint because you are too busy to emulate whoever to the "T". I remember going to beach as a kid and walking along or rather behind my parents. They would leave footprints in the sand and instead of making my own I would walk in the same steps they took and walk on top of their footprints. It's the same thing. How many times have you read about or met someone who wants to be the next Thurgood Marshall? Some are so over zealot that they attend the same school he went to, join the same organizations or live a life that is similar or would be pleasing  to Mr. Marshall. Don't get me wrong, Mr. Marshall is an excellent role model to inspire to be like but his walk, will never be your walk. (Even the definition of role model is to imitate a person's behavior in a particular role.) The paths may sometimes overlap but it will never be the same direct route traveled to get there.

There is nothing wrong with emulating anyone or having inspiration but what I've learned about life is that there is no correct one formula to get you to wherever you want to go. If that was the case we would be a bland society instead of the rich, colorful and diverse people we are. I say, yes it's okay to admire that person and follow their plan but modify it so it fits in your life and not so that their life and plan takes over yours. Pressure is a son of b%$#h and if you've ever wondered why some people crack under it, it's because they are not following the directives God has given specifically for them but are following the instructions He has given to someone else. Each of us has a specific plan for our lives just as unique as our fingerprints. When you learn or figure out the directive for your specific life, living up to the pressure is not in disappointing other people anymore it's in disappointing yourself. No one wants to to disappoint themselves so you will do only your best and you will succeed because you made the calls on where to go and what to do not because 

I have always signed my emails this way even in high school "Always imitated but never duplicated." It's something I've picked up from my father because he says it ALL the time. I'm an original and not a copy. I make decisions in my life because I know that for truth. My walk is not like someone else's. If God gives me my instructions and I'm told to go right, then why in all that is Holy, would I allow someone to tell me to go left because it's a sure fire, proven way to go because the person before me got to the destination that way. Uh uh, God told me to go right and I'm going right.

 That's something my parents don't seem to understand (or all parents, really), yes you want the best for your children but sometimes your walk is not their walk. You can't manipulate a situation because that is what you want them to do. It does not work. Children are not "mini-me's",children are reflections (notice I said reflection and not replica) of their parents and  come with their own instructions that they are to seek and parents are to raise them up to be able to seek out those instructions not to give them new ones. Parents are to hone in on their child's gifts and talents and nurture that is within in them and carefully not smother the passion for said gifts or talents.  

Sometimes, as people, we have to go out and learn the lessons and go through the fire. Sometimes we need to let go of all that is familiar and walk by faith and not by sight. Sometimes we need to be tested to realize and understand that God may have some lessons or things in place to show how to better equip ourselves, so that when we get to our destination we are not fighting trying to find who we are. It wouldn't be a fight for me because I already know who I am and what I am capable of.

Again, there is nothing wrong with emulating people but you must follow your own instructions that have been laid out for you. The journey in life is deciphering those instructions and using it as a map to get you to YOUR greater great and no the greater great of someone else's life. I'm a different person all together I choose to take the road less traveled and it has made all the difference. My mother always said I was an unusual child and I continue to be an unusual woman. Please understand, I'm human and sometimes I do feel or rather allow people to make feel a little self conscious  about my journey and then I regain my composure and say "it's my journey" and I will do what I please. I usually keep my life story to myself because it's no one else's to dissect and take apart to tell me how I should live or be living. I'm an original and not an imitation. Do you know who you are? Are you the imitator or the originator? Are you a wander, watcher or a doer? What I know of me is that, I'm a doer who took the road less travelled and that has made all the difference.


Song of The Week - Adele - Make You Feel My Love

>> Saturday, April 12

When it comes to music I am very highly critical of what I listen to (in regards to lyrical content). I love my music and am very passionate about it but I really, really am disgusted with the quality of music that has come out lately. I don't and can't listen to the radio anymore. I'm just not impressed by too many artists, but notice my surprise when I heard this week's featured artist, I was truly impressed and I look forward to her artistry from here on out.

This week's artist is a London based Soul and Jazz singer Adele. I am really into this Bob Dylan cover of Make You Feel My Love and I hope you like it as well. The words just say it all. Can't you hear this in some Julia Roberts - Hugh Grant romantic comedy? I LOVE IT! Here is a live version and studio version of the song:


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